The current quarantine to control the spread of the coronavirus pandemic is trying the patience of most people. But probably none more than the parents of young children.
During the current coronavirus quarantine, as parents spend entire days with their young children, many are anxious that they are not doing enough. Are the kids spending too much time in front of the TV? Am I giving them enough activities that enrich their development? Have eating times become stressful?
It’s times like these when parents often try to be “perfect” which only adds to their stress. But the important thing to remember is that you are present with them and that’s what matters.
The best you can do right now is to remember that you are enough, writes Rebecca Parlakian, noted authority on child development. “You can get to skip sentences while reading (super long) children’s books. You can hide the finger paint or tell your child it dried up.”
And you can ease up on the rules. “Have a picnic on the living room floor,” counsels Parlakian. “Let the toys take over the house…. Try an afternoon bath time. Turn down the lights and make it cozy. It’ll be relaxing for you and help your kids drop off into a solid nap afterward.”
By now, most parents of small children are feeling a bit crazy. That’s normal because families ordinarily do not live alone with no social contacts or support. But don’t fret. Your children are not being harmed if you are able to find a bloc of time during the day for moments you cuddle and connect with them. It’s just what they need right now to make them feel safe, secure and loved.
Just remember – you are enough.